Theresa Ann Murry Cain obituary – Low Calorie Diets Tips

Theresa Ann Murry Cain, 98, died on June 9, 2022 with her beloved children by her side. She was born on January 20, 1924 in Cross Creek in rural Jackson County, Kansas to William A. and Mary Cecelia (McNeive) Murry and the fifth of seven children to a close-knit and loving Irish-American farming family.

After Theresa’s father died suddenly in 1931, her teenage brothers Bill, Tom and Frank set about keeping the farm running through the worst years of the Great Depression and beyond. Theresa attended a one-room schoolhouse until eighth grade and rode the family pony to class every day with her two sisters, Kathleen and Clare.

She attended her first two years of high school at Immaculate Conception Academy in St. Marys, but transferred to Emmett High School after Immaculate’s only mode of student transportation, an old hearse, broke down. While still at school, she supported the family as a part-time clerk at the Work Progress Administration (WPA). She graduated as a salutator from the Emmett High School Class of 1942.

Soon after, Theresa and a cousin, Virginia McNeive, rushed to the home front to support troops overseas by going to work at the Sunflower Army Ordnance Plant in De Soto, Kansas. Theresa worked alongside chemists in the lab, carefully testing and packaging nitroglycerin for use in bombs and grenades. Outside of work, she took on scrap trips: collecting metal, rubber, and newspapers, and honing the habits of frugality she would maintain throughout her life.

When the war ended, Theresa used her laboratory training to land a position as a medical assistant to Topeka physicians John Cavanaugh and Hubert Harris. One evening Theresa’s brother Bill came home from a hunting trip with the handsome Daniel O’Connell Cain. Sparks flew and Terry and Dan were eventually married on September 29, 1956.

The new family grew quickly: six children – Pat, Ann, Dan, Eileen, Clare and Bridget – all arrived between 1957 and 1965. Terry continued to be busy raising her children while continuing to work part-time as a medical assistant. The children soon came to appreciate her fair but firm parenting style, and over the years many of their friends benefited from her hospitality and generosity.

An excellent cook and hostess, Theresa always had an extra seat in the car, an extra plate at the table and an extra sleeping bag for the floor. A valuable friend and reliable neighbor, she often used her medical knowledge to diagnose rashes, remove ticks, and provide splints and slings for the neighborhood children.

She was also an excellent shoulder to cry on and offered unwavering support to anyone in need. Her unusual empathy arose from a giving heart and her deep Catholic faith. She prayed for many people. Theresa embraced her family from the Purest Heart of Mary through the supper club, Bible study, and as a member of the resurrection choir singing at church funerals.

Theresa loved music and sang every day of her life until the end. With a perfect memory for melody and lyrics, she could have been a champion on Name That Tune. Theresa and Dan enjoyed the Topeka Jazz Workshop, band concerts in the park, and listening to their beloved swing kings and queens: Tommy Dorsey, Glenn Miller, and Ella Fitzgerald.

Through life’s struggles and joys, Dan and Theresa remained best friends and partners. They owned farmland together in the Topeka area and were surrounded by many loyal friends for 65 years. They played the card game Tripoley with the same pairs for over 40 years. Countless highballs, laughs, canapes and loose change have been exchanged and shared by the group over the decades.

Theresa was a member of the Jeffersonian Club and the Nautilus Club of College Hill. She also volunteered at her polling station in College Hill. She was the consummate grandmother, but wasn’t afraid to occasionally threaten to show the standard she held over a kitchen door. She called it “the reminder” for each child or grandchild who strayed across the line.

Theresa’s kindness and true heart were an unrelenting source of warmth and comfort to all who knew her. She always reminded her children to be thankful for her many blessings. Each day at Randolph Elementary School, as they stumbled out of the family van and made their way to the playground, much to the children’s chagrin, she called out of the car window, “Offer your day to the Lord!”

She would give the same advice to anyone reading this obituary.

Theresa is survived by her children: Patricia Rodewald (Lance), Beijing, China; Ann Cain (Bonar Menninger), Merriam, KS; Dan Cain III (Michelle), Kansas City, MO; Mary Eileen Cain, Lawrence, KS; Clare Stafford (George), Lawrence, KS; and Bridget Cain, Portland, OR; and grandchildren Theresa Rodewald (Matt Sherman), Thomas Rodewald, Grace Menninger, Clare Cain, Michael Cain, Ellen McGivern, Maura McGivern Kirby (Matt), Joseph McGivern, Helena Stafford, Owen Stafford, and Abigail Bushman; her sister Clare Murry Johnson (George) of Sioux Falls, SD; as well as several nieces, nephews, great-nieces, great-nephews and cousins. She was preceded in death by her husband Dan O. Cain and her brothers William Murry, Thomas Murry, Frank Murry and Joseph Murry and sister Mary Kathleen Murry Reding.

The family will greet family and friends on Thursday, June 16 beginning at 5:00 p.m., followed by a congregational rosary at 6:30 p.m. at Most Pure Heart of Mary Church, 3601 SW 17th St., Topeka, KS 66604 Mass of the Christian funeral will be celebrated at 11 am on Friday 17 June in the church. The family is demanding that masks be worn at services.

Thank you to the many dedicated caregivers who took care of Theresa including those at Brewster Place, Home Instead, Care Haven Homes and Elara Hospice.

Memorial contributions can be made to the Cain Land and Grain Value-Added Scholarship at Kansas State University and Catholic Relief Services to help Ukrainian families who are cared for at the Kevin Brennan Family Funeral Home, 2801 SW Urish Road, Topeka, Kansas 66614, were sent.

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Posted June 11, 2022

Published in Topeka Capital Journal

service information


Church of the Purest Heart of Mary, 3601 SW 17th St., Topeka, KS 66604.

June 16, 2022 at 5:00 p.m. – 6:30 p.m

Rosary of the parish

Church of the Purest Heart of Mary, 3601 SW 17th St., Topeka, KS 66604.

June 16, 2022 at 6:30 PM

Christian funeral mass

Church of the Purest Heart of Mary, 3601 SW 17th St., Topeka, KS 66604

June 17, 2022 at 11:00 O’CLOCK

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